Every family system is unique blending culture of the family members, values, languages, religion, spirituality and philophsy. What works for one family may not work for another family. There are many variables within families e.g. age of the parents, children, languages spoken, personalities to name a few. Clinic welcomes many families and the role of parenting.
Attachment writing in some documents, not necessarily scientific research will put emphasis on the
parent and child attachment. Although this is true , attachment plays a part in relations outside of the family system. The community and the modelling of parents in socialising, communication and beyond is an important aspect of family systems and attachment. Having a sense of belonging within the family home is priority but so too in other systems. This enhances attachment in many forms. Children are individuals and not a person for the parent to “own”. Supporting children with attachments in their friendships, community, groups is essential for their growth.
Modelling is in every family system. Children learn from what they see rather than what they are told. In psychology this is known as Social Learning theory or observational learning. Modelling provides a blueprint for how to behave in the real world. Through observation, children acquire skills without formal instruction. An example of this would be social skills, watching caregivers / parents interact with others teaches them so much. Community and socialisation is very important for psychological and wellbeing. This is an essential component for children. Modelling can also shape internal beliefs e.g. a parent authentically caring for others / talking with others supports how a child can think of themselves. Seeing a parent with agency provides children with a belief they can make a difference too. Modelling is seen by watching the parent do exercise, time for self as this is teaching self care.
Authentic parenting is a philosophy that prioritises genuiness , emotional honesty and respect. Instead of performing a perfect parental role, authentic parents strive to be their true selves e.g. hobbies, working, showing children they are fully human, including their mistakes and vulnerabilities. Emotional transparency involves expressing your real feelings. For example if you are tired or sad, you acknowledge it rather than hiding behind a forced smile. This supports parents to be good enough and letting go of perfectionism.
The well-being of parent is paramount so working effectively in clinic to support anxiety and mood is important. Attending to key aspects of life stage and sharing strategies is shown to support 98% who seek family and parenting support in clinic.